Many studies have shown that when people approach the end of their lives, most regret the things they didn't do as opposed to regretting the things they did. People who were loved were not told often enough, a trivial disagreement lasted for years rather than minutes or seconds, “sorry” should have been said more often than it was or the words “thank you” weren't said as often as they should or could have been.
As Brian Clough once said, “Don't send me flowers when I'm dead. If you like me, send them while I'm alive.”
Do this for a week. Thank everyone for everything, your postman for your post, your milkman for delivering your milk, the clerk for your train ticket, the receptionist for greeting you with a smile everyday, the waiter or waitress for your coffee or meal. If you enjoyed your coffee tell them “thanks for a lovely cup of coffee”.
Tell your family you love them. If you were wrong about something but never admitted that you were, swallow your pride and apologise. Make up with a friend or family member. If your effort of reconciliation or apology is rejected, hey, you did your best and that is all anyone can ever do.
Be careful as you do this because one of the side effects could be that people smile at you and you could find yourself smiling back. You could become happier!
If someone close to you dies, what would you rather? Be told that “He thought a lot of you” and thinking to yourself “Well, I never knew that” or would you rather you had heard it direct from the person when they were alive so that there was never any need to be told it by someone else?
Don't regret what you didn't do, do those things now, today, pick up the phone and call someone to tell them you love them or to patch things up. Smile and say “thanks”.
Life is not a rehearsal, this is it, the real thing, right now. Every day is the first day of the rest of your life.
Be happy, it really is a lot easier than you think, and maybe some of you might do this for more than a week, you can if you want to!
Have a great week,
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